tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5265757842252897204.post2068751674212825152..comments2024-02-29T00:35:23.026-08:00Comments on It's Always Something...: In All Seriousness Lo asks, "What Is This Thing Called Love?"Lohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08398370059689865989noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5265757842252897204.post-10368050944921459452012-03-27T06:42:36.578-07:002012-03-27T06:42:36.578-07:00This is a great posting I have read. I like your a...This is a great posting I have read. I like your article.busana muslimhttp://toko-baju-muslim.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5265757842252897204.post-67796551746230586662012-03-23T07:40:03.092-07:002012-03-23T07:40:03.092-07:00Hmmm...your post and your comments are facinating....Hmmm...your post and your comments are facinating. It's quite amazing how many different definitions for this thing called "love" we have, most--as you so eloquently say--change with maturity. For myself, I've come to realize that I do not love unconditionally. I believe only God has that capacity. Perhaps the exception to this is what I feel for my boys--but even that, I have expectations, conditions. If they don't respect and honor me, they lose privaleges. Love is not one way--that is merely enabling. Love wants the best for someone...and at times that means you are hard as nails and stand in thier way. Or leave. <br /><br />Every true relationship is two way...and for a long time I felt as if my desire for the other people in my life to give back to me was somehow wrong. Coming to understand that healthy love in friendship as well as romance actually REQUIRES an exchange, mutual effort, and equal investment has freed me. Given me the ability to breathe again. <br /><br />Marvelous post.Chantelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10324845550553743658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5265757842252897204.post-83829457837217230352012-03-22T22:05:52.615-07:002012-03-22T22:05:52.615-07:00There are a lot of people in my life that I love w...There are a lot of people in my life that I love with all my heart..The reward of loving others is the love I get back..it is priceless to me. You, dear Lo, have been the most loving friend I have. I have found that the way you show your love varies with the different ones you love..I let them know that I love them, trust in God to keep them safe, and know they love me in return. "That" makes my world keep turning. I didn't count, but how many times did I say love in this comment!! lolAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5265757842252897204.post-48188254817242908292012-03-22T10:49:00.886-07:002012-03-22T10:49:00.886-07:00Unconditional love? We can't, we are human. ...Unconditional love? We can't, we are human. We just do the best we can.messymimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649529601786689712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5265757842252897204.post-71509539001546604882012-03-22T07:30:29.437-07:002012-03-22T07:30:29.437-07:00Okay. I had to come back and add something. The th...Okay. I had to come back and add something. The thing people do which make me want to scratch them out of my address book (and delete them from my contact list) is to try to solve all of my problems! You know these people! Their own lives are in shambles and yet, they constantly have just the right bit of information or advice to whip my life into shape! <br />Yes. I am so mean that I can't stand overly-helpful people. <br />I mean it.Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5265757842252897204.post-54211759697493642272012-03-22T07:29:58.125-07:002012-03-22T07:29:58.125-07:00Very thought-provoking post! I have found that as ...Very thought-provoking post! I have found that as I get older (and older) I'm constantly re-evaluating myself, rehashing old relationships and events and finding myself lacking in some way. I can't help it, but it's bringing me down. So, now I'm considering if it is healthy to be doing such soul-searching! I just can't win...sigh.Ms Sparrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03417670251423549014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5265757842252897204.post-290849574253390132012-03-22T07:17:45.942-07:002012-03-22T07:17:45.942-07:00This is an inspired bit of writing Lo.. and I foun...This is an inspired bit of writing Lo.. and I found myself nodding my head in agreement nearly the whole time I spent reading it.Intense Guyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08441598926026727682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5265757842252897204.post-50272937196066026732012-03-22T05:56:47.408-07:002012-03-22T05:56:47.408-07:00I think you know how to lover perfectly...the exam...I think you know how to lover perfectly...the examples you stated are not love ..they are co-dependant ideas. The thing is we know how to love we just love ourselves also which means we don't put up with bs from others. Good post!ain't for city galshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14938751007704247232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5265757842252897204.post-39622626939360000812012-03-22T05:55:30.258-07:002012-03-22T05:55:30.258-07:00This hit home for me in a lot of ways. I, too, hav...This hit home for me in a lot of ways. I, too, have gotten rid of people in my life whom I have loved so very dearly because of some of the reasons you listed. Being needy is one but it goes beyond just "needy." I cannot save anyone's life or sanity. That's just the truth. I can barely hang on to my own at times. And I'm too old to have people in my life whom I can't count on to be the same person two days in a row. People who are loving and kind one day and completely off the rails and accusing me of things I have no idea what they're talking about the next. No. I can't live like that.Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5265757842252897204.post-58644980041215774192012-03-22T04:02:19.556-07:002012-03-22T04:02:19.556-07:00I believe you are over-thinking it a bit. I believ...I believe you are over-thinking it a bit. I believe you are describing an absolute which you feel you are unable to attain. I would argue that the absolute, the holy grail, does not exist. This love stuff is imperfect and messy, and may even be a rationalization of a sort. But I suspect if you subtract the notion of love from the human condition, we (individually and collectively) would be worse off. I think that accepting and acknowledging love, even though it can be questioned over and over again, reaps a better payback than feeling that you are incapable of love and reject it.Jerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04278403041887060649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5265757842252897204.post-1216698681384321982012-03-21T22:11:00.378-07:002012-03-21T22:11:00.378-07:00Nah, you just think too much. Supposedly, we are l...Nah, you just think too much. Supposedly, we are loved for our flaws but it's not so easy to forgive the flaws in others. (I just wish I weren't so flawless! lol) Whether we like it or not, we're a product of our pasts and some take so much work to simply cope with that we just can't commit 100%. Gives away too much power. I think that's the purpose of religion -- to have a group of people supporting you through whatever. At least, it's a sense of community. (BTW, stay out of burning buildings, yourself -- I may opt to doing a watercolor of it!)SharleneThttp://www.mainstreamsolarcooking.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5265757842252897204.post-37193888297828975512012-03-21T21:59:27.967-07:002012-03-21T21:59:27.967-07:00I gotta laugh... I just posted a post about myself...I gotta laugh... I just posted a post about myself ... and yours just hit home... I need to get where you are... I'm about 3/4 there.<br /><br />Great post! I needed this... I'll be 69 next week... hope I'm still kicking and 'got it' together when I'm 84... <br /><br />I think of the next 15 years and oh, baruther --- I need to shit or get off the proverbial pot... I'm drinking the prune juice ;)<br /><br />Inspiration! y'are!Carolynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03663919207326700505noreply@blogger.com