Sunday, December 27, 2009

Ruthless I May Be, But Not Heartless

This is, I hope, the last chapter on my knock-down drag-out catfight with a poor girl whose posting on Facebook caused me to lose my temper and behave badly.  I am, I hope, never too proud, or too arrogant to say I am sorry and, after thinking over the situation I decided that an apology might be the right thing to offer someone who was expressing a back-assed effort to quit smoking.  I still deplore her smarmy attitude and approach to the subject, and I am still rankling just a wee bit  from being called a "shrivelling prune", (who, ME????) but I am way above and beyond letting insults which I may have provoked bring me down and I am, as much as possible, always gung ho to reach across the line and do the right thing.  Consequently, it may please and relieve my fans to note the following apology I just submitted.

" Dear Selena : I apologize for what may have seemed like my harsh words earlier. I am a "saved" 4 pack a day ex-smoker myself. Additionally, I nursed my husband thru a crippling stroke (partially caused by his smoking) and lost him to lung cancer from his smoking so I do have the credentials to be down on taking smoking lightly. If I hurt you, please forgive. I wish you good luck in your struggle. "

It is interesting to me that it took 3 blogs to actually complete this verbal adventure.  I also want to stress that the lesson in all of this, (if anyone cares to know what I have learned and relearned during my life ) is simply that a person, even one who may consider themselves absolutely in the right on a position, should always review the circumstances objectively and honestly and, given any case where a person may have hurt another person unintentionally (or even more to the point  - intentionally ), it is vital that a person simply say "I'm sorry".    As far as I am concerned those are the two 2nd most important words in the English (and every other) language............. after "I love you".


Nuff said.

2 comments:

  1. ...but bet you didn't get an apology for her calling you a 'shrivelled prune'! Looking at your image, I don't see a erinkle in sight (not even the fabled 'crows feet' under the eyes!)- so unless this is an avatar I'd say you are a VERY well-preserved octogeneration!('tis only numbers anyway, and as Mae West famously said 'You're only as old as the man you feel'!)Well, maybe I'm a bit biased, as I DO prefer the more 'mature' lady! Let it flow like the proverbial water over the duck's rear end, dear Lo

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  2. I've just completed three and a half years smokefree after my two packs a day habit. I do not feel any different. I still want a cigarette with a glass of wine..or five. Why can't they invent cigarettes that are good ffor you?

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